Jealousy has a strange effect on some people. While part of us is hurt at the thought of our partners being with others, the jealousy can have a different, more pleasant, side effect for many. It can be sexually charging for many people.
Biological Reasons
Many social behaviorists have studied jealousy and the consequences on a scientific level for years. Jealousy seems to be something that occurs in humans for a good reason. When you start to feel jealous, the brains instinct is to do something that counters the jealousy. So if you are jealous that your partner is with another swinger, it motivates you on an unconscious level to be a better lover than they are, and this could be one of the reasons jealousy makes so many people horny.
Playing The Images
Another reason that swingers can use jealousy to their advantage is just through thought. While you are swinging, you are either watching your partner with someone else, or imagining them in a compromising position with someone else. Just playing these images is enough to spark both a little jealousy and a lot of sexual energy. Sometimes the two emotions meld together, and lead to jealousy becoming an aphrodisiac.
When It’s Unhealthy
While jealousy in swinging is common and can enhance the sexual experiences, it can also be unhealthy for the relationship. If the jealousy starts to lead to trust issues, or you can’t come together as a partnership to talk about potential issues, then the jealousy can be overwhelming and eventually lead to the demise of the relationship.
