Woody Swingers

Jealousy has a strange effect on some people. While part of us is hurt at the thought of our partners being with others, the jealousy can have a different, more pleasant, side effect for many. It can be sexually charging for many people.

Biological Reasons

Many social behaviorists have studied jealousy and the consequences on a scientific level for years. Jealousy seems to be something that occurs in humans for a good reason. When you start to feel jealous, the brains instinct is to do something that counters the jealousy. So if you are jealous that your partner is with another swinger, it motivates you on an unconscious level to be a better lover than they are, and this could be one of the reasons jealousy makes so many people horny.

Playing The Images

Another reason that swingers can use jealousy to their advantage is just through thought. While you are swinging, you are either watching your partner with someone else, or imagining them in a compromising position with someone else. Just playing these images is enough to spark both a little jealousy and a lot of sexual energy. Sometimes the two emotions meld together, and lead to jealousy becoming an aphrodisiac.

When It’s Unhealthy

While jealousy in swinging is common and can enhance the sexual experiences, it can also be unhealthy for the relationship. If the jealousy starts to lead to trust issues, or you can’t come together as a partnership to talk about potential issues, then the jealousy can be overwhelming and eventually lead to the demise of the relationship.

Jealousy is a reality that every couple must deal with at some point. With couples that swing, it’s even more of a reality. Even though a couple is completely open and honest with one another, it can happen from time to time. There are some smart ways to deal with this before it becomes an issue.

Set Guidelines

As a couple that swings guidelines are crucial. These don’t need to cover every single aspect that could come up, but they should at least cover the basics. Before you start swinging you want to sit down and work out what you are okay with. If your partner mentions an activity that sparks jealousy in your mind, it should be brought up and talked about. Having a list of do’s and don’ts won’t eliminate jealousy, but it will help minimize it.

Be Flexible

It’s common to have a list of rules, but then something happens at a club or party that causes jealousy. It could be for a variety of reasons that it comes up. Whatever the reason, you and your partner need to stop what you are doing and discuss this in private. You don’t need to change all of your rules on the spot, but you should discuss the current situation before it gets out of hand.

Be Realistic

If you get jealous when you think about your partner being with someone else, closed swinging may not be a good option. You may want to opt for more open situations, or soft swinging. As you further involve yourself in the community you can address and expand the rules as needed.