Once a sexual fantasy pops in our head, it’s difficult to squash the idea. Most fantasies can be lived out in some way without cheating. You may have to get creative to work this out, a good place for ideas is always the Swinger Stories on any swingers site, most are organised by genre, so it should be pretty straightforward to find something that you would both enjoy.
Talk to Your Partner
In most cases if your partner genuinely cares about you they will be open to suggestions. Before you consider cheating, sit down and figure out what it is about the fantasy that turns you on the most, and ask your partner to set aside some time to discuss it.
Be Prepared to Compromise
If you ask your partner to do something that is outside of their comfort zone, don’t assume they are willing to drop what they feel is out of the ordinary to make you happy. As a couple, you share a partnership and you may need to compromise. Find out what aspects make you uncomfortable, and go from there. You may be surprised at how far they are willing to go. Also be prepared for requests of their own. They may have a fantasy they want to play out, and if they are willing to help you with yours, you will need to help them with theirs as well.
Be Realistic
If you are with a woman who is very thin, a fantasy involving being with a voluptuous woman will not play out. They will probably not be open to you sleeping with someone else unless you are swingers and have discussed it beforehand. It’s important to understand that there are limits that just aren’t possible to cross, regardless of how open your partner is.
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