Jealousy is a reality that every couple must deal with at some point. With couples that swing, it’s even more of a reality. Even though a couple is completely open and honest with one another, it can happen from time to time. There are some smart ways to deal with this before it becomes an issue.
Set Guidelines
As a couple that swings guidelines are crucial. These don’t need to cover every single aspect that could come up, but they should at least cover the basics. Before you start swinging you want to sit down and work out what you are okay with. If your partner mentions an activity that sparks jealousy in your mind, it should be brought up and talked about. Having a list of do’s and don’ts won’t eliminate jealousy, but it will help minimize it.
Be Flexible
It’s common to have a list of rules, but then something happens at a club or party that causes jealousy. It could be for a variety of reasons that it comes up. Whatever the reason, you and your partner need to stop what you are doing and discuss this in private. You don’t need to change all of your rules on the spot, but you should discuss the current situation before it gets out of hand.
Be Realistic
If you get jealous when you think about your partner being with someone else, closed swinging may not be a good option. You may want to opt for more open situations, or soft swinging. As you further involve yourself in the community you can address and expand the rules as needed.
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